Learning that a loved one has cancer is not only devastating but it takes a toll physically and mentally on the patient, family, and friends. If you have taken on the role of providing elderly care for a loved one with cancer, you will need to find ways to cope.
The following are ways that can be helpful to elderly care providers when coping with cancer of a loved one:
- Choose the right doctor – Finding a doctor you can trust and who is qualified will help you as you go through the process of the disease and treatment. A doctor who is willing to take the time to answer any questions that you or your loved one have will provide some comfort.
- Honest communication with your loved one – Be open and honest. Include your loved one in the discussions and decisions regarding treatment options. Listen attentively if they want to talk about their fears and concerns.
- Educate yourself – Learn about the type of cancer that your loved one has. This will help you to understand what to expect and better prepare you for the level of care necessary.
- Join a support group – There are several support groups that an elderly care provider and the person with cancer can join. Talking about the situation and listening to how others cope in similar circumstances can offer some peace and comfort during this difficult time.
- Keep a positive attitude – You may be feeling sad or angry that this is happening to someone you love, but it is important to keep a positive attitude in the presence of someone with cancer. Remember, as bad as you may be feeling, a person with cancer is feeling worse and experiencing many different emotions. They need to be able to draw from your strength and support.
- Take time to do something fun together – Don’t dwell on the downside of cancer. There are going to be times when a person with cancer just doesn’t feel well but try to encourage activities that they once enjoyed. Some elders become withdrawn and depressed when they are diagnosed with cancer. This in turn creates a negative state of mind and often times a decline in health will soon follow.
Coping with cancer can be challenging for both the patient and the person providing elderly care. However, it is all the more important to make the best of each day.
If you have an aging loved one who needs professional elderly care, or are considering home care services for yourself call Harmony Home Health and talk to our care staff. They will be attentive to your situation, and provide clear and immediate options to help you deal with the difficulties you face. Harmony Home Health provides services for the greater Sacramento, Placer, and El Dorado Counties including: Sacramento, El Dorado Hills, Folsom, Granite Bay, Roseville, Cameron Park, Placerville and surrounding areas. For more information and a FREE assessment CALL (916) 414-9100.