Convincing your parents that you know better than them about needing additional care can be a touchy subject. They have to make it their idea otherwise the threat of admitting to needing help can be just too much to face for some people. Here are some ideas that might help when it comes time to have that sensitive conversation with your loved ones:
1) Get professional advice: Go to someone they have trusted over the years. It may be a religious leader, a doctor, or even an esteemed friend. Hearing this advice from a third party can make your job so much easier.
2) Position this as just some part time help around the home. Put the emphasis on chores they do not like, or that are becoming overwhelming to them. Housekeeping, laundry, and running errands on the to-do list are a good place to start.
3) Emphasize that this is just a temporary step, a part time solution to a short term need. You’re probably reading this because you have seen and discussed some concerns with them already. Let them know that bringing in a caregiver for a little while will help everybody, at least until things get a little better.
4) Assure them that this is all within the budget. Review the affordability of some part time care, and emphasize the benefits you will all get from easing the stress and worry in both your and their households. Remind them that if you are relieved of some of the burden, you'll have more time enjoying the things you love to do with them.
5) Review the consequences of what could go wrong if you don't take this step. How awful would it be if they became one of the 1 in 3 seniors this year that gets admitted to the hospital because of a slip and fall that could have been prevented? What if they are exposed to a traffic accident that could have been prevented if a caregiver were there to help them run errands? Perhaps the risk of continuing on alone are just too great.
If you or anyone you know have questions about in-home care in the Sacramento area, please give our Care Coordinator Patty a call. She will be more than glad to discuss all the options with you.