For the most part, Tom and his wife were concerned about his mother’s well-being living at home alone at the age of 83. They didn’t live all that far away and tried to visit as often as they could. With each progressive visit, Tom noticed more things that made him believe it was time for her to consider home care services.
Tom went home one evening and began researching various in-home health care services in the area. He contacted a few agencies as well as several independent caregivers to find out how much they charge for their services and what kind of services they would actually offer.
He decided on one caregiver in particular, someone who would be considered an independent contractor (because they did not work through an agency) and then excitedly went over to talk to his mother about it. She was not happy in the least.
Tom actually became angry with his mother and their arguments grew more serious as the days passed. Tom kept having to call off the caregiver and ask her to begin the following week.
Tom finally had enough and told his mother that the in-home care provider would be showing up on the following Tuesday and that she “better answer the door.”
The major mistake that Tom made.
This scenario unfortunately plays out across the country with tens of thousands of families. Tom made a serious mistake when he decided to take matters into his own hands. He never consulted his mother about whether she wanted to hire home care services or not.
It is absolutely essential that we all remember that even though our elderly loved ones may be struggling with certain aspects of their basic care home, and even though we know that they require some level of assistance, it is still their right to choose whether they get help or not.
August 29th is Individuals Rights Day and we need to respect an elderly individual’s rights to choose their own care, even when we don’t agree with them. An elderly individual has the right to also choose what caregiver works with them or not.
Tom went ahead and chose somebody that he thought his mother would be comfortable with. He also got angry with her because he took her refusal to accept help as an insult to his efforts.
Home care services is a great way to assist seniors at home, but we need to remember that the decision starts and ends with the elderly individual and not their family or friends.
If you have an aging loved one who needs professional elderly care, or are considering home care services for yourself call Harmony Home Health and talk to our care staff. They will be attentive to your situation, and provide clear and immediate options to help you deal with the difficulties you face. Harmony Home Health provides services for the greater Sacramento, Placer, and El Dorado Counties including: Sacramento, El Dorado Hills, Folsom, Granite Bay, Roseville, Cameron Park, Placerville and surrounding areas. For more information and a FREE assessment CALL (916) 414-9100.