This is Part 1 in a Series on Preparing to Care for Family's Medical Needs
It’s one of those phone calls you hate to get: near midnight, in the middle of the work week, the hospital called to tell a dear friend, his dad had been admitted for heart problems. They said he was in the ICU with a possible heart attack and things didn’t look good….
As of January 1, 2016, California is now requiring all Senior Home Care Agencies to have a home care license, and all Senior Home Care Aides to be registered, fingerprinted, and TB tested. I know right? You mean it wasn’t before? Holy cow, anybody who simply called themselves caregivers, aides, or home care agencies were presenting themselves to this extremely vulnerable segment of our society as senior care professionals. The abuse and misconduct has been so widespread and rampant that the California legislature finally passed AB 1217 to address this issue and require licensure.
There is no way to sugar coat it: Senior in home care is expensive. Some people are fortunate enough to be able to afford it paying privately out of pocket; others may have long term care insurance or Veteran’s benefits. But for most of us it’s a struggle to be able to afford to bring in the kind of licensed, qualified care that is need to properly care for an aging adult. However, with a little help from your accountant and family physician, you may be able to take deductions from your taxes for the expenses for home care you're spending on your loved one.
Conniving, Manipulating Family: Financial Abuse
Chelsea is 33 years old and living with her widowed grandma. Viola's husband past away several years ago, as well as two of her daughter's. Her only family is one 50 year old daughter and a "woman child" granddaughter whom she adores. Like many grandparents, she is blind to her granddaughter's behavior. There is a special, but irrational bond that often develops between these generations. The flaws or mistakes of the grand kids is glossed over, and they are rescued from situations the rest of us would suffer painful consequences for.
It was early one evening, after an already long day and long week, when I got the call that my dad had been transported to the hospital with shortness of breath, chest pains, and was barely conscious and not able to respond to questions. I dropped everything, kissed my lovely wife good night, and headed off for an hour drive to the Mercy Methodist Hospital in South Sacramento.
This week we had the enlightening experience to visit with Elder Law attorney Nancy Milton of Progress Mediation in Elk Grove. The service is run by Nancy and her Partner Dominic Vessigault. Progress Mediation has been serving our community for 9 years now. Nancy has been a mediator since 1991, having earned her law degree in 1994 at McGeorge School of Lax.