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When Dad Refuses to Talk about a Living Will, Elder Care Can be Complicated

By Patrick Philbrick-Director on Mar 24, 2015 12:44:44 AM

Elder Care in Placerville CA

living-will.jpgMaybe your father was generally a well-organized person in his younger years, but as he’s gotten older and his memory has faded, he’s been faced with a number of challenges. One of your primary concerns may be his long-term care prospects. If you’ve tried to have a discussion about a living will and he has continually avoided the topic, yet you also notice his health, mental state, and other factors are beginning to show serious signs of decline, it can be challenging, at best.


A living will is essentially a document that explains, in detail, a person’s wishes in the event that they are incapacitated or unable to communicate their preferences for healthcare and other aspects of life. As part of Elder care, it’s a very good idea that any senior has some type of living will.

In the event that he suffers a major health problem, such as a stroke or heart attack, doctors will likely ask family members what to do with regard to care. What were his wishes? If the family doesn’t know, there could be legal aspects that complicate the situation.

The desire for elderly home care.

A growing number of seniors throughout the United States prefer to remain at home for as long as possible. Certain health conditions and other factors can complicate this situation. If the senior is incapacitated and doesn’t express their preferences to family members or even friends, they could end up in a nursing home or other living situation that is not optimal or ideal for them. That’s why it is so important to have a legal will completed.

Even if the senior expresses clear instructions to their family members, there could be some who misinterpret or misunderstand the long-term desires. That can create conflict and tension within the family and also make it more difficult to determine the proper course of care in their life moving forward. Trying to do what’s best for an elderly loved one, especially when they are facing numerous physical challenges is difficult enough without having to worry about whether you’re doing the right thing for them or that you’re doing exactly what they wanted.

A living will, when written properly, will clearly detail every aspect of elder care, from what type of medical procedures they may wish to have performed in various situations to where they want to live. It should also outline their desires with regard to elderly home care, including the type of home care aides who support them within the comfort of their home.

Harmony Home Care provides services for the greater Sacramento, Placer, and El Dorado Counties including: Sacramento, El Dorado Hills, Folsom, Granite Bay, Roseville, Cameron Park, Placerville and surrounding areas. For more information and a FREE assessment CALL (916) 414-9100.

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